It feels like I’ve really become an adult.
Which is also why I feel like I have lost a little something by crossing over into 30 – a little of my dreamy self or of the part of me that felt I could do everything. It is as though there is an awakening to my limitations, and in order to keep my head above the water with the many ‘adult’ responsibilities that I have, I need to set more boundaries.
‘No’ to hanging out late at night with friends and for impromptu suppers.
‘No’ to just buying a flight and flying off the following week (yes, I know some who just fly off the following day).
‘No’ to just spending on a whim for that fancy gadget that I will have no use for in a few months’ time.
‘No’ to packing my schedule to the brim.
‘No’ to the things that I would have done in my early and mid-twenties, because I draw more and more lines around myself to protect me – to protect my independence, my pride and my comforts.
Funnily, as I get tossed into this new decade of my life, I find that God has orchestrated major life transitions to shake up the fallow ground. Having a baby is a life lesson of trusting God each day. Moving church is a life lesson of seeking Him for direction. Getting used to a new career is a life lesson of asking Him for guidance.
It is as though God is telling me that the commitments that I made in the previous decade of my life were for that season, and a good chapter done. Now to move on into a different season which required removing creature comforts, to start tilling the land again and planting new seed so that I can to reap a new harvest that is to come.
I miss the freedom of my twenties, but as I move into my thirties, I claim in faith that God is the one who will make a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland (Isaiah 43:18-20), knowing that as J and I build our family and seek to serve Him, that ‘The glory of this present house will be greater than the glory of the former house,’ says the LORD Almighty. ‘And in this place I will grant peace,’ declares the LORD Almighty.” (Haggai 2:9).
And so begins ‘Thirty’ – a season to plough, to grow again and bear new fruit.